So at the beginning of the year, I decided to challenge myself to pay attention to moments that were POSITIVE every day. I created a Twitter handle (@PositiveParent365) with the sole purpose of capturing these moments where I could look back and read them. I had hoped to do them daily (hence the 365), but life gets in the way and I have missed a day here or there. To mark them I've been using #PositiveParentMoment. So far there have been 74 days in the year and I have marked 64 positive entries. I go back and read them occasionally, especially in moments where I am feeling overwhelmed, and it's been working. Feeding my brain positive thoughts, particularly in potentially non-positive moments, is slowly starting to help me feel better about parenting. My brain has a way to say: Look it's not all a giant waste, some moments are epically awesome, even the little ones. For example:
today we had an epic meltdown after school, but after he calmed he apologized and we had a lovely night #PositiveParentMoment
— Mom (@PositiveMom365) March 13, 2014
in his bath Boo sunk Lego creations and wore his goggles so he could scuba dive on the wrecks like Mommy #PositiveParentMoment
— Mom (@PositiveMom365) March 3, 2014
yesterday Boo made me breakfast, while I do not usually eat cereal I loved the effort :) #PositiveParentMoment
— Mom (@PositiveMom365) February 23, 2014
It's funny to see how your kids perceive you, I am sick Boo keeps checking my temp, making me drink and take medicine #PositiveParentMoment
— Mom (@PositiveMom365) February 1, 2014
Boo rode his lion around & pretended hurricane in apt, we had to wear special suits and talk muffled in "microphones" #PositiveParentMoment
— Mom (@PositiveMom365) January 22, 2014
Three months into this journey and I can see a difference. I still fall back on my old frustrated, overwhelmed ways sometimes but change takes time. But since I started looking for positive things to focus on and memorialize, those times are lessening.
I would love to see more #PositiveParentMoment, if you have Twitter, post your moment! If you don't post one in the comments here! What little moments can we use to feed the garden today?